A fool for love: Men begin thinking about professing their love six weeks before women, according a study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. |
It may take them at least three months to get round to it but, contrary to popular perception, men are the first to say ‘I love you’. However, their motives may not be entirely noble. A study found men who profess their love early in a relationship are not to be trusted – and that women actually prefer it when males wait to get serious. When researchers from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology in the U.S. questioned 45 men and women, most thought women were first to broach the topic. But quizzing others about current and past relationships revealed the opposite to be true, with the man saying the phrase first 61.5 per cent of the time. Men began thinking about professing their love 97.3 days into a relationship – six weeks earlier than women, the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology reports. But not because they are soppy sorts. Instead, they see the declaration as a sign a woman wants to go to bed with them. Said later on, they may fear commitment and head for the hills. Women, however, are loath to trust men who bring up the subject too early, perhaps as they have more to lose from pregnancy. But said after they are in a sexual relationship, it brings with it the promise of commitment and a potential father to any child. Researchers said: ‘When examining what actually happened in their past and current relationships, it was men who were more likely to confess love first. ‘This was not simply a function of women waiting for their partners to make the first move – men first considered expressing their feelings six weeks before women did. ‘One important reason men may confess love earlier than women do is because men have a stronger desire to motivate early sexual activity in relationships.’ (Read by Lee Hannon. Lee Hannon is a journalist at the China Daily Website.) (Agencies) |
也許這句話至少要三個(gè)月后才能說出口,但男人是先說“我愛你”這三個(gè)字的,和人們普遍認(rèn)為的情況正相反。 不過,他們的動(dòng)機(jī)也許并不都那么高尚。 一項(xiàng)研究發(fā)現(xiàn),在戀情初期就示愛的男人不可靠,女人其實(shí)更喜歡男人在戀情步入正軌后再表白。 來自美國麻省理工學(xué)院的研究人員調(diào)查了45名男性和女性,大多數(shù)人都認(rèn)為女人是先表白的那一方。 然而,在對(duì)其他人現(xiàn)在和過去的戀情做了調(diào)查后,發(fā)現(xiàn)事實(shí)正好相反,61.5%的情況是男性先表白的。 據(jù)《個(gè)性與社會(huì)心理學(xué)雜志》的報(bào)道,男性在進(jìn)入戀愛關(guān)系第97.3天時(shí)會(huì)開始考慮示愛,比女性早了六周。 不過這并不是因?yàn)樗麄兦橐饩d綿。相反地,他們將其視為女人愿意和他們上床的一種信號(hào)。 如果晚些再表白,他們可能會(huì)害怕承諾而逃得遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)的。 但是女人并不愿信任過早示愛的男人,也許是因?yàn)樗齻儜言辛酥笫サ母唷?/p> 不過,假如男人在他們發(fā)生性關(guān)系后再表白,這意味著承諾,并可能成為孩子的父親。 研究人員說:“在審視了他們過去和現(xiàn)在戀情中的真實(shí)情況之后,我們發(fā)現(xiàn)男人更可能先示愛。” “這一結(jié)果并不僅僅是因?yàn)榕艘恢痹诘却閭H踏出第一步,男性開始考慮表白的時(shí)間本來就比女性早了六周。 “男人比女人先示愛的一個(gè)重要原因是男人想借此早點(diǎn)發(fā)生性關(guān)系的欲望更強(qiáng)烈。” 相關(guān)閱讀 (中國日?qǐng)?bào)網(wǎng)英語點(diǎn)津 陳丹妮 編輯:馮明惠) |
Vocabulary: get round to: 抽出時(shí)間來做(或考慮) broach: to begin talking about a subject that is difficult to discuss, especially because it is embarrassing or because people disagree about it 開始談?wù)摚耄ㄓ戎噶钊藢擂位蛴挟愖h的話題) soppy: silly and sentimental; full of unnecessary emotion(一味情意纏綿的;感情過于豐富的;多愁善感的) head for the hills: 跑得遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)的,跑開躲起來 be loath to: 不愿(做某事) |